Why on earth will a man suddenly fall in love with one and only one Lady from billions of women? Why on earth will a Lady choose to live the rest of her life with only one man from the millions on the surface of the universe? An avalanche of attempted responses have been advanced to answer this challenging question but one of the most plausible explanation goes thus……..
A fortnight ago I was privileged to listen to an eloquent speaker who cumulatively and concomitantly enjoys the prowess of being one of the most celebrated scientist of our times. He suggested that the answer lies within our sub-conscious mind. After perusing through my flood of thoughts, I concur with this.
As a human evolves from childhood to adulthood, (s)he progressively builds an image in the sub-conscious mind of the ideal partner (s)he will like to have. This virtual image borne in our minds becomes a reality when we meet the person whose attitude, aptitude, altitude and other personal attributes match with our imaginative “ideal”. The journey of a compatible relationship thus begins.
This image of the “ideal person” is influenced by one’s intrinsic desires and exposure to the outside world. This might be a celebrity, a mentor, or simply some imaginative ideal when we set our minds wondering. But do “ideals” really exist? Many people under duress bow for the proxy to their “ideals” to satisfy temporal social pressures. In the long run, incompatibility becomes evident and divorce becomes eminent. For sure very few meet their ideals during their earthly sojourn. But as an African adage goes, in the absence of the crocodile, we can perfectly manage the lizard (reminiscence of my friends from CCAST Bambili..).
“Perfection” and “ideals” are alien to mankind. In real life we do rarely meet our ”Ideals” , we build them. The difficulty which sets in is that of what trade-off one must make to go for a “near ideal”! This is because if one must wait for the “ideal” Mr. Right/Miss Right then one will definitely wait forever,……..for ideals only exist in an Eldorado. EIN 2014-04-17.
A fortnight ago I was privileged to listen to an eloquent speaker who cumulatively and concomitantly enjoys the prowess of being one of the most celebrated scientist of our times. He suggested that the answer lies within our sub-conscious mind. After perusing through my flood of thoughts, I concur with this.
As a human evolves from childhood to adulthood, (s)he progressively builds an image in the sub-conscious mind of the ideal partner (s)he will like to have. This virtual image borne in our minds becomes a reality when we meet the person whose attitude, aptitude, altitude and other personal attributes match with our imaginative “ideal”. The journey of a compatible relationship thus begins.
This image of the “ideal person” is influenced by one’s intrinsic desires and exposure to the outside world. This might be a celebrity, a mentor, or simply some imaginative ideal when we set our minds wondering. But do “ideals” really exist? Many people under duress bow for the proxy to their “ideals” to satisfy temporal social pressures. In the long run, incompatibility becomes evident and divorce becomes eminent. For sure very few meet their ideals during their earthly sojourn. But as an African adage goes, in the absence of the crocodile, we can perfectly manage the lizard (reminiscence of my friends from CCAST Bambili..).
“Perfection” and “ideals” are alien to mankind. In real life we do rarely meet our ”Ideals” , we build them. The difficulty which sets in is that of what trade-off one must make to go for a “near ideal”! This is because if one must wait for the “ideal” Mr. Right/Miss Right then one will definitely wait forever,……..for ideals only exist in an Eldorado. EIN 2014-04-17.
“And Miss X is thinking: Maybe I'm just too idealistic, waiting for a knight to come riding up on his white horse, when I'm sitting right next to a perfectly good person, a person I enjoy being with, a person I truly do care about, a person who seems to truly care about me. (Anonymous)”.
